Here are some mistakes to avoid after you have just broken up with someone.
1. Underestimating Yourself
You seriously don’t need to blame yourself for everything that went wrong. There is no point thinking that it was you who caused the breakup, that you were not worthy of love. Always remember that in any relationship, it’s never one person’s fault.
2. Overestimating Yourself
This just had to be the next point after the above one. Even if you know that the break-up didn’t happen because of you or that you were right the entire time, blame yourself for letting go if you could have held on. Remember that no one is perfect and you sure played a part in the things that went wrong.
When you have just broken up with someone, you are vulnerable. Anyone who shows you compassion and sympathy looks like a well-wisher, and you are bound to fall into rebound. Don’t do that. While I don’t say that everyone is bad and is trying to make use of your vulnerability, you should know where to draw the line between friends and opportunists.
Don’t distance yourself from those who love you and care for you. Going into solitude is only going to have a negative impact as you would not be able to come out of the shell soon. To recover your happiness and self-esteem, surround yourself with those who make you happy.
5. Bad Habits
Drinking and drugs are the worst things you can do to get out of the pain. While movies and serials glorify drinking as a measure to let go of emotional pain, you would only be inviting further problems by resorting to bad habits like these. Do good things and your happiness would help you get rid of the emotional pain.
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